Briefly describe how your child first came out to you and your initial reactions.
My daughter is 13 and came out to me via a letter she had written to me. She tucked the letter under my laptop so I would find it after she went to school. She explained that she was gay (explained what that meant though I am fully aware, so cute!) and that she knew I would still love her (tears) and that she had thought about it for a long time. While she was at school I joined our local PFLAG and sought out advice from lesbian friends to make sure I had the resources I needed to continue to be a loving and supportive parent.
When she got home from school we went out for ice cream and we talked. I told her I got her letter, thanked her for it and told her I thought she was brave and wonderful and that I loved her. She continued to make sure I was educated about all the different
What concerns did you experience over the first weeks or months? How did you deal with them?
We live in an area that is mostly progressive but definitely has elements of conservative views and proud boy behavior. I am concerned for her safety when she expresses herself more in public or is in public with a partner. I will be going to the local PFLAG meetings so I am educated about what the realities are in our community and know what I can do to help my child be safe and secure in themselves.
Has your child come out to other family members over time??
What is the hardest thing about knowing their LGBTQ identity?
Oh, maybe just worrying for their safety and happiness.
What are some challenges have you faced concerning your LGBTQ child? How did you deal with these?
It is still so new I have not had any challenges except for our first conversation when I wanted to make sure I handled it appropriately.
What is the best thing about knowing your child's LGBTQ identity?
She is open and honest with me and trusts me.
Knowing what you know today, would you want your child to “stay in the closet”? Why?
What would you say to other parents learning the LGBTQ identity of their child?
Be supportive and loving, get in touch with community resources and people you know who are LBGTQ and can guide you.
What would you say to youth coming out to their families?
Do so in a way that is safe and comfortable for you, find the support you need. You are wonderful as you are.
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