• Saving Lives,
    Preserving Families.

    Strong Family Alliance has a simple mission – to save lives and preserve families by supporting parents and children coming out. We help you understand what to expect and how to keep your family strong and safe.

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    We’re Here to Help.

    If you are a parent whose child just came out, you may be struggling or wondering how to respond. We are parents too and want to help you through this crossroads and find a hopeful path for your family.

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  • Coming Out to Your Parents

    If you are coming out, we want your family to understand you and to realize that it’s OK that you’re LGBTQ. We hope you’ll find our coming out guide useful and that you’ll share this site with your parents.

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    You are not alone. We share stories from people who have been where you are.

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Our Story

“Mom, will you still love me? Will you always love me?”

That is every child’s greatest need — and greatest fear. That question is more important than the words “I’m gay” or “I’m trans”.

That question started a journey for our founder, Janet Duke — to keep her child safe, to deal with her own fear and worry, and eventually to help countless parents navigate the upheaval that occurs when a child comes out.

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  • “Shame needs three things to grow ... secrecy, silence and judgment.”

    ~ Brene Brown

    Listening to Shame, TED 2012 (march 2012)

  • “This moment of coming out to parents is a crossroads in the life of an LGBTQ person and the parent response is a major predictor for the child’s future drug use, homelessness and suicide attempts.”

    ~ Dr. Caitlin Ryan

    Family Acceptance Project, San Francisco State University

  • “You can be your child’s anchor, their safeplace. Don’t ever drop your end of the rope.”

    ~ Dr. Phillip C. McGraw

    drphil.com

Stories

“I was devastated when my child came out, but through time, patience and a lot of prayer, I’m finally to the point where I can accept my child. It’s been hard, but so worth it to keep my family intact.”

A Mother From Arkansas

"Be brave and proud. You were born this way and God loves you just the way you are."

A Mother From Pennsylvania

"I was aware that many in our culture and in the church were not accepting of LGBTQ persons, so I was concerned what the future might hold for her."

Father and Pastor

I did a lot of grieving over the loss of the image I had of my only son in my mind and heart. (Transgender story.)

Daughter Overcomes Suffering

His journey has been a catalyst for my own journey to greater authenticity and I am deeply thankful for that. I now consider it one of the greatest blessings of my life to have a gay son. My own faith has blossomed and been renewed...

Authenticity and Deeper Faith through Journey With Gay Son
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Stories

  • “I was devastated when my child came out, but through time, patience and a lot of prayer, I’m finally to the point where I can accept my child. It’s been hard, but so worth it to keep my family intact.”

    A Mother From Arkansas

  • "Be brave and proud. You were born this way and God loves you just the way you are."

    A Mother From Pennsylvania

  • "I was aware that many in our culture and in the church were not accepting of LGBTQ persons, so I was concerned what the future might hold for her."

    Father and Pastor

  • I did a lot of grieving over the loss of the image I had of my only son in my mind and heart. (Transgender story.)

    Daughter Overcomes Suffering

  • His journey has been a catalyst for my own journey to greater authenticity and I am deeply thankful for that. I now consider it one of the greatest blessings of my life to have a gay son. My own faith has blossomed and been renewed...

    Authenticity and Deeper Faith through Journey With Gay Son
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Featured Resources
09.24.2021 • Blog

Coming out at school

If your child recently came out to you as LGBTQ, you may be wondering who else they told and how they’re dealing with the coming out process. For students who are newly out, going back to school can be an intimidating and confusing time and they’ll need your love and support more than ever.

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June 2008 • Video

Anyone and Everyone (Documentary)

Parents from across the United States share intimate accounts of struggling with the pain and challenges of their child coming out. From diverse geography, cultures and backgrounds, they reveal common threads in the parent experience.

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11.05.2019 • Blog

How to Have a More Meaningful Holiday

Bring your LGBTQ loved ones home, bring their friends as well, and start building new memories around family and holidays.

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Parents with LGBTQ children often feel extremely anxious about reconciling their love for their child and their faith. We’re here to tell you that being religious and being gay are not mutually exclusive. We’ve compiled a list of Faith-based organizations for LGBTQ people and their loved ones. Exploring these groups will help you realize you’re not alone in this experience. Check out the list on our website: www.strongfamilyalliance.org/hopeful-voices/faith-based-organizations/ ---Los padres de hijos LGBTQ muchas veces se sienten ansiosos con el tema de conciliar su amor por sus hijos sin contradecir su religión, sin embargo queremos decirte que ser religioso y ser gay no son realidades mutuamente excluyentes . Hemos recopilado una lista de organizaciones religiosas inclusivas para la gente LGBTQ y sus seres queridos. Conocer estos grupos te ayuda a comprender que no estás viviendo esta experiencia sola. Checa la lista en nuestra página web: www.strongfamilyalliance.org/es/parent-guide/challenges-ahead/issues-of-faith/ #AcceptanceStartsAtHome #AcceptanceStartsWithYou #StrongFamilyAlliance #SFamilyAlliance #AcceptanceStartsWithFamily #LGBTQ+ sfamilyalliance #gay #lesbian #parents #family #support #resources #comingout #queer #trans #conversations #kids #closet #acceptance #love #Loveislove ... See MoreSee Less

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