• Saving Lives,
    Preserving Families.

    Strong Family Alliance has a simple mission – to save lives and preserve families by supporting parents and children coming out. We help you understand what to expect and how to keep your family strong and safe.

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  • My kid just came out.

    We’re Here to Help.

    If you are a parent whose child just came out, you may be struggling or wondering how to respond. We are parents too and want to help you through this crossroads and find a hopeful path for your family.

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  • Hopeful Voices

    You are not alone. We share stories from people who have been where you are.

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  • Parenting Transgender Children

    A Guide for Keeping Your Family Strong

    A resource for loved ones trying to understand this change in the family, this book covers insights on the child’s journey, common parent questions, risks ahead, how to help, what to avoid and more. You’ll find answers to concerns you may have now and those you may encounter in the future.

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Our Story

“Mom, will you still love me? Will you always love me?”

That is every child’s greatest need — and greatest fear. That question is more important than the words “I’m gay” or “I’m trans”.

That question started a journey for our founder, Janet Duke — to keep her child safe, to deal with her own fear and worry, and eventually to help countless parents navigate the upheaval that occurs when a child comes out.

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  • “Shame needs three things to grow ... secrecy, silence and judgment.”

    ~ Brene Brown

    Listening to Shame, TED 2012 (march 2012)

  • “This moment of coming out to parents is a crossroads in the life of an LGBTQ person and the parent response is a major predictor for the child’s future drug use, homelessness and suicide attempts.”

    ~ Dr. Caitlin Ryan

    Family Acceptance Project, San Francisco State University

  • “You can be your child’s anchor, their safeplace. Don’t ever drop your end of the rope.”

    ~ Dr. Phillip C. McGraw

    drphil.com

Stories

“I was devastated when my child came out, but through time, patience and a lot of prayer, I’m finally to the point where I can accept my child. It’s been hard, but so worth it to keep my family intact.”

A Mother From Arkansas

"Be brave and proud. You were born this way and God loves you just the way you are."

A Mother From Pennsylvania

"I was aware that many in our culture and in the church were not accepting of LGBTQ persons, so I was concerned what the future might hold for her."

Father and Pastor

I did a lot of grieving over the loss of the image I had of my only son in my mind and heart. (Transgender story.)

Daughter Overcomes Suffering

His journey has been a catalyst for my own journey to greater authenticity and I am deeply thankful for that. I now consider it one of the greatest blessings of my life to have a gay son. My own faith has blossomed and been renewed...

Authenticity and Deeper Faith through Journey With Gay Son
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Stories

  • “I was devastated when my child came out, but through time, patience and a lot of prayer, I’m finally to the point where I can accept my child. It’s been hard, but so worth it to keep my family intact.”

    A Mother From Arkansas

  • "Be brave and proud. You were born this way and God loves you just the way you are."

    A Mother From Pennsylvania

  • "I was aware that many in our culture and in the church were not accepting of LGBTQ persons, so I was concerned what the future might hold for her."

    Father and Pastor

  • I did a lot of grieving over the loss of the image I had of my only son in my mind and heart. (Transgender story.)

    Daughter Overcomes Suffering

  • His journey has been a catalyst for my own journey to greater authenticity and I am deeply thankful for that. I now consider it one of the greatest blessings of my life to have a gay son. My own faith has blossomed and been renewed...

    Authenticity and Deeper Faith through Journey With Gay Son
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Featured Resources
12.21.2022 • Blog

The Club of Worried Parents

SFA board member and mom of three reflects on the extra-heavy burden of worry that parents of LGBTQ+ children unfairly have to carry, and the beauty that is often born from that struggle.

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03.26.2024 • Blog

5 Things You May Not Know About LGBTQ+ People

If your child just came out, you’ve got some learning to do. Today we’ll talk about some surprising things you might not know about the LGBTQ+ community.

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03.01.2024 • Blog

5 Reasons Why We Celebrate Transgender Day of Visibility

International Transgender Day of Visibility, is an opportunity to uplift and amplify the lives and voices of transgender people everywhere. Today, we’ll talk about why this day is so important, and some ideas about how to mark the occasion with your child.

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