• Saving Lives,
    Preserving Families.

    Strong Family Alliance has a simple mission – to save lives and preserve families by supporting parents and children coming out. We help you understand what to expect and how to keep your family strong and safe.

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  • My kid just came out.

    We’re Here to Help.

    If you are a parent whose child just came out, you may be struggling or wondering how to respond. We are parents too and want to help you through this crossroads and find a hopeful path for your family.

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  • Coming Out to Your Parents

    If you are coming out, we want your family to understand you and to realize that it’s OK that you’re LGBTQ. We hope you’ll find our coming out guide useful and that you’ll share this site with your parents.

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  • Hopeful Voices

    You are not alone. We share stories from people who have been where you are.

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  • Parenting Transgender Children

    A Guide for Keeping Your Family Strong

    A resource for loved ones trying to understand this change in the family, this book covers insights on the child’s journey, common parent questions, risks ahead, how to help, what to avoid and more. You’ll find answers to concerns you may have now and those you may encounter in the future.

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Our Story

“Mom, will you still love me? Will you always love me?”

That is every child’s greatest need — and greatest fear. That question is more important than the words “I’m gay” or “I’m trans”.

That question started a journey for our founder, Janet Duke — to keep her child safe, to deal with her own fear and worry, and eventually to help countless parents navigate the upheaval that occurs when a child comes out.

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  • “Shame needs three things to grow ... secrecy, silence and judgment.”

    ~ Brene Brown

    Listening to Shame, TED 2012 (march 2012)
  • “This moment of coming out to parents is a crossroads in the life of an LGBTQ person and the parent response is a major predictor for the child’s future drug use, homelessness and suicide attempts.”

    ~ Dr. Caitlin Ryan

    Family Acceptance Project, San Francisco State University
  • “You can be your child’s anchor, their safeplace. Don’t ever drop your end of the rope.”

    ~ Dr. Phillip C. McGraw

    drphil.com

"Be brave and proud. You were born this way and God loves you just the way you are."

A Mother From Pennsylvania

"I was aware that many in our culture and in the church were not accepting of LGBTQ persons, so I was concerned what the future might hold for her."

Father and Pastor

I did a lot of grieving over the loss of the image I had of my only son in my mind and heart. (Transgender story.)

Daughter Overcomes Suffering

His journey has been a catalyst for my own journey to greater authenticity and I am deeply thankful for that. I now consider it one of the greatest blessings of my life to have a gay son. My own faith has blossomed and been renewed...

Authenticity and Deeper Faith through Journey With Gay Son

Our family has developed a closeness that is amazing...We also have gained a new relationship with our God that is closer than ever.

Christian Family Leans on Faith

Stories

  • "Be brave and proud. You were born this way and God loves you just the way you are."

    A Mother From Pennsylvania
  • "I was aware that many in our culture and in the church were not accepting of LGBTQ persons, so I was concerned what the future might hold for her."

    Father and Pastor
  • I did a lot of grieving over the loss of the image I had of my only son in my mind and heart. (Transgender story.)

    Daughter Overcomes Suffering
  • His journey has been a catalyst for my own journey to greater authenticity and I am deeply thankful for that. I now consider it one of the greatest blessings of my life to have a gay son. My own faith has blossomed and been renewed...

    Authenticity and Deeper Faith through Journey With Gay Son
  • Our family has developed a closeness that is amazing...We also have gained a new relationship with our God that is closer than ever.

    Christian Family Leans on Faith
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Reality: This is their true understanding of themselves. Transition is not an impulse or an easy change, but an effort to resolve a strong dissonance in their life and live their personal gender identity. More mythbusters in our Parenting Transgender Children guide: www.strongfamilyalliance.org/parent-guide-trans/ Mito: Afirmar ser transgénero es: una moda, una elección, una fase, causada por la presión de otras personas, una forma de rebelión. Realidad: Es la verdadera comprensión de sí mismos. La transición no es un impulso o un cambio fácil, sino un esfuerzo por resolver una fuerte disonancia en su vida y vivir su identidad de género personal. Más cazadores de mitos en nuestra guía Cómo criar jóvenes transgénero:www.strongfamilyalliance.org/parent-guide-trans/ ...#AcceptanceStartsAtHome #AcceptanceStartsWithYou #StrongFamilyAlliance #SFamilyAlliance #AcceptanceStartsWithFamily #LGBTQsfamilyalliance #gay #lesbian #parents #family #support #resources #comingout #queer #trans #conversations #kids #closet #acceptance #love #Loveislove #NationalMonthofGratitude ... See MoreSee Less
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A simple, personal action we invite you to take is to share the story of your child coming out to you. This has several benefits: it’s completely private, it helps you practice telling your story and it becomes a resource for others. Click here to share: https://buff.ly/2WuSqjA