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My husband and I disagree

My 15 year old daughter has been questioning, both sexuality and gender identity for several years. Even as a young child she wanted to wear boys clothing and strongly identified with her brother. She has gone back and forth, and a few weeks ago told me she wants to identify as male. We bought clothing from the men’s department for school. I told her I will support her no matter what. The most difficult thing is my relationship with my husband. He doesn’t feel we should support her, he thinks she will be “lost,” if she follows this path. We come from an evangelical background and pastored for 10 years, although we aren’t right now. Partly because conflict between us in raising our children (3 older sibs). One had a drug problem, and another had a baby at 16. I want to focus on the relationship with my children in order to be a help to them as they navigate life. My husband on the other hand feels I am much too passive, fearful of losing them. It’s getting harder to stay together. We’ve been married almost 30 years. I want to stay together but sometimes I wonder if it’s healthy for us and the children. I am concerned as we now move into this next part of the journey with my 15 year old. I’d appreciate any insights, shared experience.

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      My 15 year old daughter has been questioning, both sexuality and gender identity for several years. Even as a young child she wanted to wear boys clothing and strongly identified with her brother. She has gone back and forth, and a few weeks ago told me she wants to identify as male. We bought clothing from the men’s department for school. I told her I will support her no matter what. The most difficult thing is my relationship with my husband. He doesn’t feel we should support her, he thinks she will be “lost,” if she follows this path. We come from an evangelical background and pastored for 10 years, although we aren’t right now. Partly because conflict between us in raising our children (3 older sibs). One had a drug problem, and another had a baby at 16. I want to focus on the relationship with my children in order to be a help to them as they navigate life. My husband on the other hand feels I am much too passive, fearful of losing them. It’s getting harder to stay together. We’ve been married almost 30 years. I want to stay together but sometimes I wonder if it’s healthy for us and the children. I am concerned as we now move into this next part of the journey with my 15 year old. I’d appreciate any insights, shared experience.

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