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Daughter’s new friend

So, my daughter, 14 almost 15, has told us she is gay. Her new friend we now find out is her girlfriend. I asked if the girl’s parents know, and she said she wasn’t sure. They spend time at the friend’s house, but I want to know what the rules are for hanging out. If the parents don’t know I am not sure I want her over there unsupervised. Anyone have this situation occur and what did you do?

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    • kahhill
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      So, my daughter, 14 almost 15, has told us she is gay. Her new friend we now find out is her girlfriend. I asked if the girl’s parents know, and she said she wasn’t sure. They spend time at the friend’s house, but I want to know what the rules are for hanging out. If the parents don’t know I am not sure I want her over there unsupervised. Anyone have this situation occur and what did you do?


    • proud trans mom
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      I am a little late to this, but have experienced a similar experience when my trans-son came out and his new friend (also a trans-male) was his new boyfriend. Similarly, his parents did not know he was trans, however, they spent most their time at my house. I found the best thing we can do as parents is talk it out. Talk to them about your concerns, ask them questions, and try to be open-minded. Also, it is not our place to out anyone, but perhaps refrain from sleepovers without your supervision? I’ve found that allowing open communication, without judgement, will allow your child to trust you with bigger things later. Hope this helps!


    • igralikon
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      One of the most powerful tools in any parent’s toolkit is active listening. Create an open and non-judgmental space where your child feels comfortable expressing themselves. Put away distractions like phones or computers, maintain eye contact, and truly listen to what they have to say. This not only helps you understand their thoughts and feelings but also strengthens the bond between you and your child.

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