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daughter exploring trans

My daughter told me at 11 she was bisexual. At 15 she came out as lesbian. She has not been in a romantic relationship as far as I know. I have always been supportive and let her know I loved her no matter what and just wanted her happiness. Jump ahead to 20 she came to me and let me know she was dating her male friend. But she was also exploring the possibility of being trans. She is exploring chest binders and baggy clothes. I am trying to be supportive, but also slightly morning my beautiful daughter. she has always gone back and fourth to a more “boyish” dress to very girl. The past few years she has swayed to a very girl appearance i.e. makeup dresses and trendy girl clothes. It seems like this change came out of the blue and I want to be accepting but would be lying if I said inside I wasn’t struggling. I can tell myself this is fine if she is happy, safe and fulfilled, but inside I feel so sad…anyone else experience this

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    • triciacmax
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      May 5, 2023 at 12:18 am
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      My daughter told me at 11 she was bisexual. At 15 she came out as lesbian. She has not been in a romantic relationship as far as I know. I have always been supportive and let her know I loved her no matter what and just wanted her happiness. Jump ahead to 20 she came to me and let me know she was dating her male friend. But she was also exploring the possibility of being trans. She is exploring chest binders and baggy clothes. I am trying to be supportive, but also slightly morning my beautiful daughter. she has always gone back and fourth to a more “boyish” dress to very girl. The past few years she has swayed to a very girl appearance i.e. makeup dresses and trendy girl clothes. It seems like this change came out of the blue and I want to be accepting but would be lying if I said inside I wasn’t struggling. I can tell myself this is fine if she is happy, safe and fulfilled, but inside I feel so sad…anyone else experience this


    • Jackson Alder
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      May 10, 2023 at 1:41 pm
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      Hi there! You’re not alone in how you’re feeling. Many parents of transgender kids go through that mourning and grief. Your support and wanting to be accepting is so great and important. Our Transgender Parent Guidecan be a great next step. You can read the Transgender Parent Guide online, have it emailed to you in 5 chapters, or buy our book (Parenting Transgender Children: a Guide for Keeping Your Family Strong) on Amazon. Each of these provides information about your child’s journey, understanding what transgender means and the many ways it can be expressed, how to deal with your own worry and fear, how to help, what to avoid, and so much more. We help you get started and point you to many books, resources, and organizations that can support you as well. For stories from other parents of transgender children, check out the Hopeful Voices/Family Stories section.

      This can be a time of great risk for your trans child. Family support and connection are their lifeline and safety net.

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