Hi MomBANDLCB4, you came to the right place to process your feelings and get support. We recommend checking out our Parents Guide and Journey for Parents. These guides can help you on your journey with your gay son. It’s also important to ask him if he needs help or how he needs help. For some, it’s not something that requires your help – just your love and acceptance. You’re right that he is still the same person, and would likely want you to act the same way you always have. Saying you will love him no matter what is a great first step! It will get better and we’re happy to help however we can.