I know a few same-sex couples who have gone the surrogacy route and they love their little ones just as much as any biological child. A surrogate baby is indeed considered a “”native child””, but keep in mind that love and family are about so much more than biology.
On the other hand, adoption can be incredibly rewarding too. You have the opportunity to give a child in need a loving home, and you’ll be making a real difference in the world.
In the end, the most important thing is to do what’s right for you and your partner. It might help to talk to other same-sex couples who have gone through the surrogacy or adoption process, or even to connect with a local foster parenting organization for more info and support.