What you’re going through is so very common! As LGBTQ+ youth come out, they often share with those closest and safest, and then stage their conversations with others depending on comfort level or need. We applaud you waiting for your child to take the lead on who to tell, how, and when, as outing a child who is not ready or comfortable is not advised. Although it is so difficult to feel unable to discuss this important thing with your co-parent, the most important piece is that your son is able to make the choice. You can let him know that you are hoping he shares the news with his father, and why, or share that you are concerned that you will inadvertently disclose his private information. You can also ask if or how you can be helpful with that conversation. But ultimately, it is important to support the timing that feels right to your son.