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    Strong Family Alliance has a simple mission – to save lives and preserve families by supporting parents and children coming out. We help you understand what to expect and how to keep your family strong and safe.

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    If you are a parent whose child just came out, you may be struggling or wondering how to respond. We are parents too and want to help you through this crossroads and find a hopeful path for your family.

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    If you are coming out, we want your family to understand you and to realize that it’s OK that you’re LGBTQ. We hope you’ll find our coming out guide useful and that you’ll share this site with your parents.

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Our Story

“Mom, will you still love me? Will you always love me?”

That is every child’s greatest need — and greatest fear. That question is more important than the words “I’m gay” or “I’m trans”.

That question started a journey for our founder, Janet Duke — to keep her child safe, to deal with her own fear and worry, and eventually to help countless parents navigate the upheaval that occurs when a child comes out.

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  • “Shame needs three things to grow ... secrecy, silence and judgment.”

    ~ Brene Brown

    Listening to Shame, TED 2012 (march 2012)
  • “This moment of coming out to parents is a crossroads in the life of an LGBTQ person and the parent response is a major predictor for the child’s future drug use, homelessness and suicide attempts.”

    ~ Dr. Caitlin Ryan

    Family Acceptance Project, San Francisco State University
  • “You can be your child’s anchor, their safeplace. Don’t ever drop your end of the rope.”

    ~ Dr. Phillip C. McGraw

    drphil.com

“I was devastated when my child came out, but through time, patience and a lot of prayer, I’m finally to the point where I can accept my child. It’s been hard, but so worth it to keep my family intact.”

A Mother From Arkansas

"Be brave and proud. You were born this way and God loves you just the way you are."

A Mother From Pennsylvania

"I was aware that many in our culture and in the church were not accepting of LGBTQ persons, so I was concerned what the future might hold for her."

Father and Pastor

I did a lot of grieving over the loss of the image I had of my only son in my mind and heart. (Transgender story.)

Daughter Overcomes Suffering

His journey has been a catalyst for my own journey to greater authenticity and I am deeply thankful for that. I now consider it one of the greatest blessings of my life to have a gay son. My own faith has blossomed and been renewed...

Authenticity and Deeper Faith through Journey With Gay Son

Stories

  • “I was devastated when my child came out, but through time, patience and a lot of prayer, I’m finally to the point where I can accept my child. It’s been hard, but so worth it to keep my family intact.”

    A Mother From Arkansas
  • "Be brave and proud. You were born this way and God loves you just the way you are."

    A Mother From Pennsylvania
  • "I was aware that many in our culture and in the church were not accepting of LGBTQ persons, so I was concerned what the future might hold for her."

    Father and Pastor
  • I did a lot of grieving over the loss of the image I had of my only son in my mind and heart. (Transgender story.)

    Daughter Overcomes Suffering
  • His journey has been a catalyst for my own journey to greater authenticity and I am deeply thankful for that. I now consider it one of the greatest blessings of my life to have a gay son. My own faith has blossomed and been renewed...

    Authenticity and Deeper Faith through Journey With Gay Son
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These small and simple actions can make a world of difference to the wellbeing of LGBTQ youth. When your child comes out to you they aren’t expecting you to turn around and start wearing rainbows everyday or march in a Pride parade. Simply being warm and welcoming to their LGBTQ friends or telling them about an article you read about same-sex marriage is enough to show them you’re trying. If you’re really struggling, pick something from this list and try to put it in action this week. You might be surprised at the results. To read the full results from the survey check out The Trevor Project: www.thetrevorproject.org/survey-2022/——Estas pequeñas y sencillas acciones pueden suponer una gran diferencia en el bienestar de los jóvenes LGBTQ. Cuando tu hijo sale del clóset no espera que te pongas arcoiris todos los días o que participes en el desfile del Orgullo. El simple hecho de ser cálido y acogedor con sus amigos LGBTQ o de hablarles de un artículo que has leído sobre el matrimonio entre personas del mismo sexo es suficiente para demostrarles que lo estás intentando. Si te cuesta mucho, elige algo de esta lista e intenta ponerlo en práctica esta semana. Quizá te sorprendan los resultados. Para leer los resultados completos de la encuesta, consulta The Trevor Project:www.thetrevorproject.org/survey-2022/——#AcceptanceStartsAtHome #AcceptanceStartsWithYou #StrongFamilyAlliance #SFamilyAlliance #AcceptanceStartsWithFamily #lgbtq #gay #lesbian #parents #family #support #resources #comingout #queer #trans #conversations #kids #closet #acceptance #love #Loveislove @trevorproject ... See MoreSee Less

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A simple, personal action we invite you to take is to share the story of your child coming out to you. This has several benefits: it’s completely private, it helps you practice telling your story and it becomes a resource for others. Click here to share: https://buff.ly/2WuSqjA